Despite all the numerous literature out there on its disadvantages and so on, the act of stimulating yourself or someone else is an art. Perhaps you just want to know how to finger probably your sex life has gone downhill. Either way, read on and learn some awesome techniques you can pick on and spice up your love life.
The English word masturbation was introduced in the 18th century, based on the Latin verb masturbari, alongside the slightly earlier onanism. The Latin verb masturbari is of uncertain origin. Suggested derivations include an unattested word for penis, *mazdo, cognate with Greek mézea μέζεα, “genitals”, or alternatively a corruption of an unattested *manusturpare (“to defile with the hand”), by association with turbare “to disturb”
Fingering Her
In simple words, fingering is touching the vagina and clitoris with your fingers. Onset, all women are different. Ultimately, it narrows down to asking her what she likes. She can take your hand and guide you or show you how she does it. Regardless her body language is the key. Is she getting wet? moaning? writhing? breathing speeding up? then you on the right track. However, that doesn’t necessarily cut it for everyone hence the purpose of our vade mecum.
How to do it
~Trim your nails, ~Wet your fingers with some vaginal fluid, saliva, or lubricant. ~Stroke on or around the clitoris with your fingers. ~A little bit faster, or a bit slower. ~Pressing harder, or more gently.
Start slow, or use your tongue.
Why you ask. Well, the pussy needs lubricating, if you don’t have lube your saliva does the job. To begin with, licking is a skill with two techniques you can use. They are:
.1.The Vortex: Make a small “O” shape with your lips a little bigger than her clit. Make sure your lips are covered in saliva and place this “O” over your girl’s clit and the surrounding area. Then gently start sucking, causing her clit to get sucked up into your mouth. But no teeth though! Various variations of Vortex exist including:- 1) constant sucking; 2) sucking and releasing the pressure rhythmically, pulling her clit in and out of your mouth and releasing it; 3) quickly applying a strong level of suction to her clit, before releasing it slowly; 4) where you suck her clit into your mouth, try holding it there, while you use your tongue to massage her clit.
2.The Pancake: Start by sticking your tongue out of your mouth. Allow it to drop down over your chin and relax. Now make it wide and flat. To perform the Pancake, start with the base of your tongue at the bottom of her vulva. Making sure your entire tongue is thoroughly covered in saliva, slowly move your head upwards from the bottom of her vagina to the top so that your tongue moves from the bottom until the tip of your tongue passes over her clit.
However, do not make movements with your tongue your head will do the moving. When you reach the top, stop, pull away from her so you are no longer making contact, and start over from the bottom. Keeping your tongue relaxed, wide, and flat ensures that you cover as much area of her vulva/vagina as possible, giving her maximum stimulation. Make sure you use as little pressure as possible and move your head slowly as well.
If you are not hearing, seeing, or feeling much of a reaction from her (faster breathing. moaning, clutching at linens, bodily tension if she’s close to orgasm), then start to use increasing amounts of pressure until you can tell she’s enjoying it. However, your goal should always be to use the minimum amount of pressure possible to make her cum when you are eating her out.
As an added bonus, when you are making your way up her vulva, right before your reach her clit, you should increase the pressure so that the base of your tongue is forced under her clit slightly. Once the base of your tongue is under her clit, slow down your movement, but don’t release the pressure.
Get things going
Well to spice things up even more several other techniques can be used.
Edging: Start with vortex or pancake when you can tell she is getting close to climaxing, start to slow down and back off, so she doesn’t. Spend a few seconds on something else pleasurable that won’t bring her to orgasm like:
- Kissing around her vagina.
- Kissing her inner thighs.
- Fondling her boobs.
After she has calmed down, eat her out again to the point of orgasm and stop. Repeat as above several times. However only use the technique if she easily reaches orgasm.
Hit the G- Spot: Using the Come Hither motion on the upper part of the vaginal canal with two fingers. You can also use your free hand to press down on her mons pubis to provide stimulation of the G-spot externally. Licking her clit or applying extra pressure under her clit while you finger her G Spot can spice it up.
Everyone’s G-spot is in a slightly different location, but generally, it’s 2–3 inches inside the body. While the walls of the vaginal canal are very smooth in texture, the G- spot feels like a wet sea sponge.
Finger bottom of her vagina, while sucking her clit: as you suck her clit massage the bottom of her vagina as deep as possible. However, if you have trouble reaching it with your finger substitute it with a dildo or penis shaped vibrator.
Finger her G-Spot, lick her clit and finger her ass: Well we have explained the first two to play with her ass:
- Rub it on the outside without penetrating it.
- Light, rhythmic pressure on the opening, without penetrating it.
- In & out penetration with your finger.
- Hold your finger(s) inside her ass.
Caress her nipples lightly with your fingertips as you finger her: but not every lady enjoys it, be careful.
Use sex toys: using a vibrator on her clit while fingering her is great because it allows you to keep your focus on her G-spot while she’s also getting clit-stimulation.
Donts’ of Fingering her
Don’t ignore her Clit.
Don’t have sharp nails.
You are not a drill, slow down while fingering her.
Don’t forget to finger her. It's an art, not a marathon.
Wet her if she is dry, lube is a good solution.
Don’t insert your whole fist into her vagina! It’s not fisting its fingering.
Anything done in excess is boring. Don’t finger for too long.
And finally, don’t waste time trying to find a G-Spot if you don’t know where it is. Don’t reach out your fingers way too far into her vagina, don’t just do it develop some rhythm of sorts. If you cant multitask (fingering in combination with boobs touching, sucking, or massaging nipples just don’t.
Take your time to learn the skills and in no time your sex life will never be the same again.
Happy foreplay!